โ๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐ฒ๐บ๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ด๐๐น๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐ป๐ผ๐?โ ๐ง
Letโs start with what it is not….
๐๐โ๐ ๐ป๐ผ๐ ๐ด๐ฒ๐๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฑ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ฒ๐บ๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐ ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐๐ผ ๐๐๐ผ๐ฝ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐บ.The emotion is your co-pilot โ telling you when to be careful, quick, slowโฆ.. You are in the driversโ seat! ๐
Now ๐ Looking back for a moment:
As mentioned in the last post:
โก๏ธ E๐บ๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐ ๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ป๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฑ๐ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฎ๐๐๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป! Usually because itโs important or even dangerous.
And always know:
โก๏ธ You are dealing with a ๐ฝ๐ต๐๐น๐ผ๐ด๐ฒ๐ป๐ฒ๐๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐น๐น๐ ๐ผ๐น๐ฑ ๐๐๐๐๐ฒ๐บ (meaning our alarm system has not really changed since our times in the caves ๐ฏ). Conflicts at work alarm us just as much as the saber-toothed tiger did. Therefore, it often makes sense to regulate our emotions.
๐ค ๐ฆ๐ผ, ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐ฒ๐บ๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ด๐๐น๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป?
Emotion regulation refers to how you attempt to direct negative emotions in a particular direction or action.
Again, lots of debate around that ๐คช
In the simplest way I would define it as our ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ด๐ป๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ฒ๐บ๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ ๐ด๐ถ๐๐ฒ๐ป ๐บ๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐ป๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ผ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฟ๐ผ๐น ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ฎ ๐๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ต๐ป๐ถ๐พ๐๐ฒ (more about that in future posts), ๐๐ผ ๐๐น๐ผ๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐๐ป ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ผ ๐ณ๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ฎ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป. ๐๐ป๐ฑ ๐บ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ฎ๐น๐น ๐ฑ๐ผ ๐ถ๐ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฐ๐ถ๐ผ๐๐๐น๐ instead of letting a disfunctional pattern take over.
ER also refers to states that are of relatively ๐๐ต๐ผ๐ฟ๐ ๐ฑ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ต๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐น๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฟ ๐๐ฟ๐ถ๐ด๐ด๐ฒ๐ฟ๐.
๐ ๐ผ๐ผ๐ฑ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ด๐๐น๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป, on the other hand, would refer to longer lasting affective states that do not necessarily have one trigger.
Now, you might say: ๐ฆ๐๐ผ๐ฝ๐ค ๐๐๐ปโ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐น๐ถ๐ณ๐ฒ? ๐๐ผ ๐๐ฒ ๐ป๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ฒ๐บ๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ด๐๐น๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ๐น๐น?
Yes โ thatโs life. But you donโt necessarily have to make it harder on yourself than necessary. Also, regulating your emotions means that you ๐บ๐ผ๐๐ฒ ๐ผ๐ป ๐ถ๐ป๐๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฑ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ถ๐ป ๐ฎ ๐ป๐ฒ๐ด๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐๐๐ฎ๐๐ฒ. And, this directly benefical for your mental and physical health. ๐ Good news, isn’t it? ๐
๐ Check, when things are heated up, if you find a trigger!
๐ Wait for a moment to observe, how things often get clearer, just by slowing down a bit!
My next post will be about how emotion regulation can make you more content ๐บ
So, stay tuned and press follow.
